Non-Boyfriends

= a male friend that is committed to do everything with a girl, who holds feelings of interest in this specific individual, except the romantic stuff. The male friend does not necessarily have to know of the girl's interest in him to classify as a non-boyfriend.

A few years ago, when I lived with my dear friend Kapiesh, she experienced the tragedy of having a non-boyfriend. I will not say that it was ever anticipated, but rather a circumstance that took place. She had a male friend, of whom she found romantic interests in, who she spent an abundance of time with. It was one of those situations where people always thought they were dating due to the fact that they were always together. They never ended up dating, though a few discussions of her feelings for him were addressed.

I, too, have discovered myself falling deep into the trap of a non-boyfriend. I never thought that I would have one, but to my disadvantage I do. They suck! Sometimes I hate using the word "suck" but there is no better way to describe it. You spend time with them and feelings start to build. You spend even more time with them and gain this desire to be with them 24/7. Then, for whatever reason on his end, you realize that it will never happen between the two of you. It only makes sense to distance yourself, so what do you do? Back away right? Find some space to get over it. It's hard, but it's the only way you can divert your feelings or at least make them subside without making a complete fool of yourself and engage in a conversation with the non-boyfriend about the feelings you have that will never be reciprocated. It is a sad situation, but I can bet that it happens to almost every girl...

The worst part of this situation is, of course, when you finally feel you are making progress in subsiding the feelings, you happen to see him again. It isn't a normal meeting, in fact, he ends up doing or saying something that makes all feelings resurface and you can't help but fall back into the trap....

Non-boyfriends SUCK!